Few days ago, I was having a tea time chat with few girl friends. We were discussing the topic of being a 3rd party in a relationship. They pinpoint out that for a man to divorce his wife, either by promise or empty promise is almost equal to zero percent. Those cases where man actually divorce their wife and get together with his so called true love should not taken in the percentage calculation because it were consider as exceptional cases. I think this fact is rather true.
Come to think about it, i know things can happen naturally for a lot of circumstances and for a lot of people. Can it be avoided? I dont know, may be yes. If it cant be avoided, can it be ended? I dont know, may be yes. If it cant be ended? then can that be a conclusion for it? i dont know. If no conclusion for it? then why want to be continued in those unhealthy relationship? i dont know. May be it cant be avoided in the first place...
Come to think about, everything is an excuse for not doing the right thing. Things happen for a reason, if it is clearly known that there would be no conclusion to continue in that unhealthy relationship, then why one still continue in doing so.... i dont know...
3 comments:
Life is full of surprises, you never know what leads to another.. especially relationship. All relationship starts from getting to know one person, before you know it, you already fall for them.
At time like this, healthy or unhealthy is up to that person status (single, attached or married?). But can one put an end to it if it's unhealthy? Despite all the signals and warnings from the close one?
Relationship is complicated, trying to justify the 'unhealthy relationship' in general perception is even harder. Fingers are always pointed at the '3rd party' but how many of us think on these poor soul behalf?
Consequences of revealing it is unthinkable, the road ahead of them is windy.. but if one think it's worth the pain to stay on, we as the close one should support them and lend them our shoulder when they need it.
But, when they realised they have enough and are finding a way out, we as the close one, should make sure one has the strength to go through the pain and get over it.
I agreed with what you said. Either it worth the pain to stay on or the strength to get over it, only the 3rd party knows well.
Well, we must be in the situation to understand the person's feelings on these relationship. But one thing for sure, to get into a relationship is very easy, but to maintain and stay in it happily is very challenging. Both parties must be tolerate with each other.
3rd party relationship is just an easy excuse and easy way to get out of the current relationship... or worst the person is not sure of which to choose and selfishly clinging to both.
Well.. life is not all about Love Relationship... sometimes we must know that no one will ever take care of us better than ourselves. No use to sacrifice our own happiness involving 3rd party relationship, as there is always loss for all parties. Unless the person can compensate the hurt one handsomely... hehehe... then story different.
Always there will be new chance of better relationship after we can get oiut of the previous painful ones. And every time we come out of it, will be smarter not to repeat the same mistakes.
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